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Defining and Achieving Personal Success

A few weeks ago, a friend confided in me about feeling stuck and unhappy with her level of success. She sought my advice, and it inspired me to create this episode. In this video, I'll share the essential questions you need to ask yourself to define what success means for you and how to take the first steps toward achieving it.
First, it's crucial to understand your personal definition of success. Many of us chase promotions, money, or business ventures without knowing why. By asking yourself, "What am I motivated by?" and "What do I love doing?", you can gain clarity and align your goals with your true desires.
Next, I emphasize the importance of taking immediate action and making the most of your available time. Often, we waste hours daily on trivial activities. By redirecting that time towards your goals, you can make significant progress. Fear is another major obstacle, but remember, failure is just a step towards learning and growth.
Finally, I address the misconception that you need to be the best to succeed. Success doesn't mean being the top performer; it means achieving what works for you. By redefining success and setting realistic goals, you can find fulfillment and continuously aim higher.
Join me in this journey of self-discovery and take the first step towards unlocking your true potential. If you need further guidance, feel free to reach out, and let's make your dreams a reality.

Busting Confidence Myths: 8 Truths to Empower Your Life

Most of you don't actually lack confidence. You don't. You just might not understand what real confidence is. So today, I'm gonna break down eight of the biggest myths surrounding confidence. And I'm gonna show you how you can use this knowledge to your own advantage, to grow your confidence and to be more successful in life.Hey everybody, I'm Art. I'm a former founder. And by all accounts, I'm probably one of the most confident people that you will ever meet. But don't let that fool you. I've seen the other side. I've lived without confidence. I've had my businesses fail, I have seen so many rejections, and I've had to rebuild my confidence a number of times throughout my life. And the way that I've done it each and every time is I've just reminded myself of these eight things. And for me, all of them are effective. Number five tends to work really well for me, but I'm going to go through all of them one by one to make sure that you find the tips that work best for you, the myths that you're believing, and the real truth behind it.Every single person fails. Failure is not even the right word for it. Failure would be something that's permanent. But 99.9% of the time, the thing that you're actually afraid of isn't a true failure. It's something that may just not go according to plan. And it's true for me too. Anytime that I'm scared, I just ask myself, and you could do the same thing, what's the worst that could possibly happen? And the answer is usually something pretty trivial. They might say, no, I might not get a call back. Maybe I'll be a little embarrassed, but that's not actually a failure. That's just trying something, having it not work out, learning from it, learning what works and what doesn't work. So learn to embrace that. Understand that confidence comes from learning and learning happens when you actually try something. So not only will you build confidence from the new things that you've learned, you'll also grow confidence from knowing that you're someone who is willing to try and willing to experiment. That is something that is rare and special and something that you should be proud of and feel confident about.Listen, this might work for some people, but personally, I have my doubts. Looking into the mirror and saying, I'm good enough, I'm smart enough and dogged on it, people like me. Because I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me. Probably isn't going to instantly give you the confidence that you want. If it does, more power to you. But more than likely, the reason that you're doing it in the first place is because subconsciously you don't actually believe it. That's why you need to think about the stories you tell about yourself in passing. Those are the stories that you actually want to change. You may not realize it immediately, but every single time you recount your childhood experiences or the past work things that you've done or failed at, you're shaping how you see yourself and how others see you. For me, I always tell people about how things just always seem to work out for me or about how luck follows me around no matter where I am. And do you know what? Even if I'm in the midst of a huge losing streak, I still believe those things to be true and I derive confidence from it. You should try it yourself. Just think about the stories you tell, change them, and really quickly you'll realize that you have a new belief in yourself. You get to pick these stories anyway. You get to choose the stories you tell about yourself when someone says, tell me about your childhood, tell me about your last job. So why not pick the good ones and start believing them?This one couldn't be further from the truth. No one can avoid rejection. It comes for all of us at any time. And confidence isn't about avoiding it. Confidence is about seeking it out and being able to keep moving forward when it actually happens to you. I probably shouldn't tell this story, but we're friends at this point. So here goes. When I was in college, I helped run the orientation for all the incoming freshmen. And to this day, I still remember watching a young guy, a guy that wasn't particularly handsome or didn't seem cool in any discernible way, work his way through a nightclub asking every single woman that he saw if they wanted to dance. He was rejected at least 20 straight times before he got a single yes. Now that is a massive, amazing amount of confidence. And if it's not confidence, then it's just really, really good understanding of math and probability. And the reason that I tell that story, the reason it sticks with me all these years later is because it reminds me that people are going to say no to you. They're going to say no to you for the job you want, no to your advances, no to you asking them to help you move. But that doesn't mean that you should avoid life and trying things because of it. You just have to accept that you're going to get some no's and be confident that eventually you'll get a yes.Confidence is never about what other people say or think about you. It's about how you feel about yourself. Just think about my guy, the guy that was asking out every single person that he saw. It didn't matter what we were saying about him. It didn't matter what we thought about them. He was confident that eventually he'd get a yes. In fact, for me, I'm less confident when the people around me are saying positive things. When they're saying, you've got this, you're going to do a great job. I get in my head. I start worrying that I'm going to disappoint the people around me. So I try not to do that. I try to focus on my real confidence, the things that I believe about myself. And you could do the same thing. What you should do is set personal goals and measure yourself against those, not against the opinions of others. Just start looking back at the things that you've done well, about your unique quirks and passions, about the things that you've accomplished, the things you care about. And eventually you'll find the things that you're good at, anything, and then lean into that. Let that carry you forward. Let that be the thing that drives you to try new things. And when you do, you'll discover even more things that you're good at and your confidence will grow on top of confidence. It's that easy.People want to believe that confidence is some innate quality, something that we're born with, but it's not. It's something that is and can be built up over time. Not only that, but it's something that if you want to, you can just decide to have. Honestly, every single one of us has met someone with blind, unfounded confidence. I'm not saying that that's how we should all be, but if there's people, people that you know aren't special or attractive or smart in any way whatsoever if they're walking around thinking that they're the greatest thing the world has ever seen well then clearly confidence can be a choice you just have to forget about what other people think and you have to figure out what it is that makes you special where your confidence comes from and lean into that and you can do that by just understanding all of the myths that i just went through honestly if you need to go back and watch them again because sometimes videos like this come off as trivial the first time but when you listen again you'll identify the myths that you've been believing the ones that you should take an action to replace with the truth and then once you've done that once you're ready to move forward with a little bit more confidence when you're ready to take the next step to try to go for something bigger in your life well then communicating your ideas becomes extremely important so if that's you then i recommend you watch this video now because this video will show you how to frame every single conversation you have in a confident, productive way to make the people around you want to support you better, even follow you, no matter what it is you're trying to accomplish.

Mastering Effective Communication

Do you want to be right or do you want to get things done? It's a serious question that can change your approach to communication and productivity. If you're struggling to win people over to your ideas or to achieve your goals, it might be time for some hard truths. This episode dives into the importance of effective communication and how it can transform your work and personal life.
We'll explore real-life examples, including the story of Shane, a smart individual who struggled to gain support for his ideas. Learn how focusing on goals rather than problems can shift the dynamics of your interactions, making it easier for others to align with your vision and collaborate effectively.
Discover practical strategies to lead conversations with clear goals, invite feedback, and be open to new solutions. These techniques not only foster better relationships but also help you achieve your objectives with less frustration.
Whether you're navigating workplace challenges or seeking personal growth, this episode provides actionable insights to help you communicate more effectively and get things done. Tune in and start transforming your communication today!

Dream Big: How to Take Action and Achieve Your Goals

So your dreams feel out of reach, right? Well, trust me, you're not alone in feeling that way. Achieving your dreams is probably more possible than you would ever imagine. You just have to know how to try and you have to go for it.In this episode, I share my personal dream and the steps I'm taking to achieve it. I'll also talk about the challenges of chasing dreams and how to overcome skepticism from others. Remember, achieving big goals is not about deserving more; it's about believing in yourself and giving it your best shot.I'll discuss the importance of saying your dream out loud, moving faster than you're comfortable with, and creating accountability. These steps have been crucial for me, and I believe they can help you too. Watch this episode to get inspired and learn how to turn your dreams into reality.Join me on this journey, share your dreams in the comments, and let's hold each other accountable. Let's do amazing things together!

Embrace Failure: The Key to Success

In this episode, we dive deep into the power of failure and why it's essential for personal and professional growth. Our host shares personal anecdotes, including a painful experience of bombing on stage as an aspiring stand-up comedian, to illustrate how failures can lead to valuable lessons and future successes.You'll learn why it's important to embrace failure, how to turn your own failures into stories of growth, and why sharing these stories can build community and trust. Discover the surprising benefits of failing fast and often, and how this mindset can lead to creativity, innovation, and ultimately, success.Join us as we redefine failure and encourage you to share your own experiences in the comments. Let's celebrate our missteps and learn from them together.

Stop Overcomplicating: The Power of Simplicity

In this episode, we dive into the common habit of overcomplicating simple tasks and how our fears and insecurities often lead us astray. We explore the importance of getting out of our own heads and adopting a more straightforward approach to achieving our goals.Whether it's asking for a raise, starting a business, or getting in shape, the key is to take direct action without unnecessary detours. Learn how being "lazy" in the right way—by finding the shortest path and avoiding needless complications—can lead to greater success and fulfillment.Join us as we uncover practical tips for simplifying your conversations and actions, making it easier to accomplish what you truly want in life.

Unlock Your Career Potential: The 5 Secrets to Success

In this episode, Art, a former founder, reveals the ultimate secret to advancing your career. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on your current role and thinking differently about how you approach it. Art shares his personal journey from a software developer to a VP of Marketing, attributing his success to five key actions.Art discusses the significance of learning about your business, the irrelevance of obsessing over future titles, and the power of adding value in your current role. He also highlights the importance of eliminating job redundancy and thinking like an owner. Through personal anecdotes, Art illustrates how these actions can lead to new opportunities and career growth.Join Art as he dives into each of these five strategies, offering practical tips and inspiring stories to help you stand out and get ahead in your career. Whether you're just starting out or looking to make a significant leap, this episode provides valuable insights to help you achieve your professional goals.

The Power of Asking for Help

If you want to be trusted, create value, and ultimately advance in your career, you might be making a big mistake: not asking for help. In this episode, we discuss how easy it is to change this behavior and the impact it has on your career progression and your team's perception of you.
Learn the importance of seeking clarity, showing your work early, and taking feedback constructively. Discover how these simple actions can save you time, improve your work quality, and enhance your reputation. Host Art, a former founder with extensive hiring and project leadership experience, shares insights on how asking for help can lead to personal and professional growth.
Don't miss out on these valuable tips that can transform your approach to work and make you a more effective and respected team member. Tune in to understand why asking for help is a strength, not a weakness, and start applying these principles today!

Navigating Life Beyond Standard Advice

In this episode, we explore the importance of questioning conventional wisdom and the potential benefits of taking unconventional paths in life. Our host delves into personal anecdotes and the experiences of renowned figures like Zuckerberg and Gates to highlight how breaking away from the norm can lead to exceptional outcomes.
We discuss the balance between following standard advice in areas like investing, where minimizing risk is crucial, and recognizing opportunities where taking a different route can result in unique and fulfilling experiences. Through stories of career shifts and bold decisions, our host illustrates how evaluating the risks and rewards of unconventional choices can shape a richer, more meaningful life.
Join us as we encourage you to identify where you want to be average and where you aspire to achieve something extraordinary. Learn how to critically assess advice, understand the potential downsides, and make informed decisions that align with your personal goals and aspirations.

The True Secrets to Success: Talent vs. Effort

Forget everything you've been told about talent and success. In this episode, we unveil two crucial secrets that can change your perspective and put you on the path to achieving your goals.
First, discover why talent alone isn't the determining factor for success. Instead, it's the effort you put in and the value you create that truly matters. Learn how starting and doing can set you apart and lead you to success.
Second, understand that success is a personal definition. By setting the right goals and focusing on continuous effort, you can always be successful. Hear stories and examples that illustrate these principles, and get inspired to take your first step towards your dreams.
Join us as we delve into the mindset and actions that can transform your life. Share your thoughts, fears, and plans in the comments, and let's support each other in our journeys to success.